i wonder what's with youngsters these days and i refer to their perspective in relationship.. if you are willing to have a relationship with ur gf/bf, u shld have the expectations or at least try to work towards marriage, make this relationship a longlasting one.. i'm so against the post-modernism idea of 'try and see' attitude! dont give me the utter rubbish excuses-'i'm not ready for such commitment' or 'it's too fast for me'.. relationship is a commitment by itself, be it friendship or BGR; if you are not ready, then jolly well dont start it, and if it's too fast, then talk it out and work together to 'slow' it down to a comfort level for both of you.. breaking up is certainly NOT an option to explore at all! (trust me, i'm not saying this cos my past experience~) i really mean it, who is perfect? who has not failed or made mistakes? the so-called perfect relationship is the fruit of tedious communications, endless adjustments and acceptance which obviously are done 'behind the scene'. rome is not built in one day, and in this context, perfect match is not built within one lifetime!
and guys, yes, i'm talking to you guys again (it's been a long while).. i can understand u r hesitant about promises, about making future plans.. yes, u wan to be sure that u can provide before u can start to paint the future.. but hey! if you know and you know, ur gf is the one for you, the one girl you'd like to spend the rest of your life with.. TELL HER! it doesn not matter if you do not have 'future plan' at this moment, at least when you do tell her, she knows and she'll feel appreciated and hence her willingness to go thru this stage with you.. honesty is the best policy! and please, when u do say that, mean it with all your heart.. dare to risk rejection or disappointment! be a man!! come'on, even though females are emotional, but we do need direction, we do need to know that you actually have us in your future plan but perhaps not now.. won't it be nice and clear if you clearly indicate ur intention and 'possible future', let us have the freedom to wait willingly or to end it.. i mean, even if it's an ending, at least u have no regrets - you made done ur part to hope it'll last, to try to work things out together. i know it hurts, disappoints, but hey.. do your best is more impt than living with regrets! it does not matter what stage of lie u are in now, be in transition between study n work or employment n unemployment, if you tuly love and treasure her, TELL HER!
somehow, i'm pretty much perplexed and disappointed with post-modernism mindset, it's so individualised.. i'm not saying it's not good to be individual, to be creative but many a times, it's the SELF-centredness in individual at work, instead of creativity to enhance one another's lives. we want relationship cos we want to be like the rest; we want relationship cos we can have a support.. how about having a relationship bcos you truly want to provide your best to enhance ur partner's life, to be the pillar of support when he/she is down? ... sigh..somehow even wanting to love is so selfish now cos you want to be assured before u assure pple (what's courage n faith in such assurance?)
it's time to reflect why we enter into relationship in the first place.. why do we allow our fluctuating feelings to dominate over our commitment to each other? decision is only wishful thinking until you take that first irreversible step.
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by the way, some of you asked me what's my strongest talents, which i've been stringently assessed on my 2nd interview.. F-Focus; R-Ranger; R-Relationship; C-Caring... dont ask me to elaborate - i just know that's accurately me, be it social or work.. and i'm weaker in Persuasion and Innovation.. yes, that's me~! :)
and i thank God for opening and blessing me with such a speedy and smooth job offer (yes, again! didn't i tell you He is my BEST consultant?) the work environment sounds like a great place to work - imagine a fitness gym and swimming pool in office building! gosh, reminds me so much of AUO HQ in taiwan.. work smart, play hard
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