read this qn:'what is love' somewhere recently.. been thinking abt it.. it makes sense that i have to learn to identify love, before seeking it.. afterall, how can seeker seek unless the sought for is identified..
biblical speaking, love is patient, love is kind..love never fails (1Cor 13:4-8). but how much do i know about this love.. ok, let's narrow it - love between a couple, a BGR rship.. i just heard over Class95 LoveSongs - 'love is bringing ur best for the person' (is it?) or even worse 'love is blind' (is love really blind?).. having the 'giver' personality, i prefer to think love is bringing out the best of the person..or even better, love is being the perfect person for the imperfect person.
how do you know you are in love? how do you know if this love will last forever?? .. no one can, and no one knows, yet there is something abut this love thingy that everyone is looking for.. one thing for sure, when u r in love, the person's imperfection will be accepted, are respected and even regarded in an indulgent manner. to put it crudely, it's 'turning a blind eye' to all imperfections of the person for the rest of your life.. .yes, it's possible when you are in love, and if u do so, you will in love for the rest of your life.. note: i have to qualify myself - that is NOT blind love. it's KNOWING -> ACCEPTING -> RESPECTING -> LOVING the person for who he/she is.
yet how many of us can do it? very often we hear comments like ' love fades', 'love fluctuates' .. surely, scientifically speaking, that lovey dovey feeling is nothing but an emotion - a release of chemicals with a similar structure to amphetamines, including adrenalin, dopamine, and norepinephrine etc.. we all desire this rush of chemicals into our brain, but how many of us really make the conscious effort to keep this onrush of chemicals flowing, to disregard all imperfections of our love as who they are no matter how they 'evolve'? yes, i say it again - it's a conscious effort of daily decisions, regardless how angry/ sad/ frustrated/ pissed off/ hurt/ disappointed/ insecured/ intimidated you are with the person. will you make the daily commitment to love his/her past+present+future? saying is easy, but can you walk the talk? (reminds me of Bosco's last speech..) .. a piece of advice for people in relationship now, please walk the talk - dont hurt the one you are loving now.
... i return to the place where this question once published.. and there is now a refined answer by the author - "Love is knowing the imperfection of who the person is and yet accepting it consciously/deliberately"
allow me ask again, what is love?
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