24 Feb 10 - age does matter afterall

disclaimer: those who are younger might find this entry offensive but hey, this is MY blog! read somewhere else, if you dont like it~


i saw a OBVIOUS DISTINCTIVE difference between 2 groups of girlfriends, even though the topic was on rship and sexual intimacy in both occasions:

1st group - younger but they are so eager to 'highlight' or even correct my perspective on rship, in order to improve my future rship?!?.. *i was really VERY umcomfortable with their enthusiasm!*
2nd group - same age/older though we might not agree on rship sentiments and views, but they encourage me to maintain my current 'totally strange requirements'..

ok, i'm not saying who is right or wrong.. but i guess age really does matter when it comes to perspective on rship.. afterall, having been thru various rships at my age, we have been, saw and heard more than we should - there is nothing weird about not having intimacy crave (yes, i have HUGE need for personal space); nothing strange about being óver'-independent in rship (esp for Feb people); there is nothing jaw-dropping about having own únique preferences in rship~  *trust me, there are a lot of other 'weird' views on rship, other than mine*

needless to say, i feel so much comfortable and happier chatting with older group, even on the topic of sex which was discussed in such sensitivity+teasing+explicit details, despite having guys in the group.. the topic of sex was so open, without poking fun at religious concerns or playing word puns with the Names of God (which i really STRONGLY uncomfortable!) fyi to you who are younger, bringing sex into rship is not chic these days. it'll only complicate simple rship which we (matured ladies) are looking for.

perhaps cos my younger friends (mostly married) hope and want to see me 'happily married' that they kinda missed the point that perhaps i'm just not that stable for marriage - perhaps a inert fact i've kinda known since uni days... yes, when i was younger, marriage was in the plan but after all i've went thru, the issue of marriage is really... not my focus. all my older friends recognised this 'trend' in younger generation - they plan to get married at early age and even joining SDU at 27yrs old!! *that is freaking young to join SDU in my opinion!*

anyway, the fact of matter is even though some of my older friends are happily married, but singlehood still attracts.. which is why they admire my current complicated rship at my expense... and the rest of us who are singles/divorced are really enjoying our individual lifestyle so much that we are really enjoying this freedom while it lasts.. no hurry and no need to look for partner; if it happens, it happens. afterall, we've been thru enough to know the sweet,sour,hurt and excitment of various rship..

btw, i've made it bluntly clear to mw to forget abt me - i'm merely having a fling with him. i know it's crudely harsh, but it's something has to be done.. he's too stable, family goody man. it's not an excuse but i have to be clear with him.


i guess i've to say my conclusive piece..
1) to you who kept telling me to go for 'stable family guy':
u people really dont know me well enough.. i am not ready to give up my singlehood freedom..  was ready, but that readiness was gone. dont know when is the next, but meanwhile i'm really enjoying the freedom.
2) to you who share my unearthly preferences in rship:
relax, i'm a master in out-of-sight, out-of-mind, remember?  :)